Ep12: How listening to Oprah can improve your relationship.

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Hello and welcome to another episode of the Monday Quickie!

Today I’d like to share a video that I hope will move you as much as it moved me because of its truth and simplicity. It’s a beautiful statement of a universal truth: we all want to be heard and validated.

Oprah Winfrey is one of the many beautiful people in the world that I admire for a number of reasons. The one most relevant to today’s video is that she has overcome incredible adversity to arrive where she is – but her greatest emphasis is not on where she came from. Rather, it’s on where she is now and how she can use her influence in the world to facilitate others to overcome their circumstances and to understand and accept others.

Why is Oprah a relationship guru?
She attributes a great deal of her success to her ability to empathise with others. She is able to sit with people where they are, speak to them on their level, and have those people feel heard and validated. She recognised that at our core, all of us, every single human being on this planet wants to be and feel heard.

How can you apply this to your relationship?
Think back to a time that you argued with someone you loved. Do you think your feelings at the time could be summarised like this: ‘Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you?’

Now, trying it the other way, in hindsight do you think the person you were arguing with was saying: ‘Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you?’

When you feel unheard – do you think its fair to say, you don’t really feel like listening?

Today’s question
How do you show your partner that you see them, that you hear them and that what they say matters to you?

Let us know in the comments below :)

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Oprah Quote: “I’ve talked to nearly 30,000 people on this show, and all 30,000 had one thing in common: They all wanted validation… I would tell you that every single person you will ever meet shares that common desire.They want to know: ‘Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you?’

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